As a child, whenever I expressed how much I liked a particular food, whether it was cereal, a snack or dinner, my parents would get/make it often. Growing up I thought, “Gee, just because I like it, you don’ t have to ALWAYS get it.” I know, what a bratty kid I must have been.
Recently, I have been wearing a lot of orange. People have come up to me and said, “You like orange, don’t you.” I started to just make comments like, “Orange is the new Black!” or “Go Giants!” just so I don’t have to explain. The reality is, it was just chance, most of my clothes that I wear are given to me. If someone were to ask me what my fashion inspiration is, I would have to say, “Pake Chic”.
Last October on my birthday my mom wanted to get me new shoes. We went to Ross and it came down to two shoes, a muted colored Sketchers or a bright orange Brooks. I got the Sketchers because it was more my color. Then I had buyer’s remorse because Brooks are GOOD shoes and they were the same price. I exchanged them. While at Ross, I saw SF Giants caps. I always wanted a Giants cap, but they are so expensive. I tried a few on, but the orange one was on clearance! It was an easy choice. Then I got a bunch of free clothes from different people. Orange happened to be in there. So, do I like orange, if it’s free, I LOVE it.
Here’s the thing. People are making assumptions about what they observe about me. On one hand I could be annoyed and think, “You don’t know me.” The other perspective is better. People are actually invested enough in me to make observations. My parents expressed their love and care for me in that they are actually paying attention to me and when I say I like something, they remember. They want to do what they can to actually give me what I like! People draw the conclusion that I like orange, because they NOTICED I was wearing a lot of orange.
If you think about it, that can be a good thing. People are actually paying attention to others and making observations instead of being self-centered. There are people who are not too captivated by their electronic devices or themselves that they notice each other. There’s hope in that.
When we put others before ourselves, we are able to notice these things. If I want to live like Jesus, then I must put others before myself. While Jesus lived in the flesh He did not sin, yet He died for sinful man. We are to do the same:
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though He was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.” Philippians 2:3-7
There’s a difference in being observant and judgmental. We must avoid being judgmental, but I urge you all to jump to conclusions a little more. It can show you’re paying attention. Even a comment like, “You like orange, don’t you?” might be a comment that makes someone’s day, because someone cares enough to notice. -jason